So much conflict is generated by misunderstanding, and, sadly, it often costs lives.
In David Kilcullen's book, "The Accidental Guerrilla", he describes a battle between US Special Forces with their Afghan allies versus the Taliban. In that battle, many of the locals joined in to attack the US forces. Afterward, a journalist followed up with the locals to ask if they hated the US. The local men replied that they didn't hate the US at all. They fought, basically, because a fight broke out and they weren't going to miss it.
This story encapsulated our experience in the Pech Valley.